Winning back the guy whom you broke up with is not an easy task. If you still have feelings for him just be certain if he is a man worthy to be in your life and that you would do anything to make it work as I wouldn’t recommend you to undergo the drama altogether again. So, do make sure that you are making the right choice. There are a few tips by which you can get him back.
Tip #1: Think what went wrong.
It is important to introspect and find what went wrong in your relationship. If you think, you possibly will find that mistakes were on your part too, and try to make a list of them. Put your ego aside and make the decision to talk to him , because someone has to make an effort to talk, doesn’t it?
Tip #2: Time to pause.
Understand the fact that he too was hurt just as you were so, give him some space of his own. Don’t pressurize him. Let him come willingly into the relationship. After all, it’s a two way process. As you kept a distance off things probably he would also require some time too.
Tip #3: Coffee?
Go for a cup of coffee or have some light snack together and try not to bring up anything about your cause to drift apart as it would likely result in ending up as a bigger fight. Keep it casual, laugh a bit. Have some quality time together.
Tip #4: Actions speak louder than words.
Stop telling him that you are not same old person as you really have to be the person whom he fell for in the beginning, but the same time the “new and improved” version where you are capable of letting his opinions into consideration as well. Let your actions do the talking and not just your words. Admit your faults, but don’t beg.
Tip #5: Listening Skills.
Don’t let your conversation be a monologue. Give him some of your time and listen to him. Be the listener when you have to be unless, he wants you to say something. As your relationship is more like a rebound you should be knowing what he actually needs.
Tip #6: Smile Sunshine.
Smile, be happy around him. A man never likes his girl to be sad and gloomy, but elegant and cheerful at all times. It doesn’t mean that you should fake, but always try to keep a positive vibe on. I bet you dress well when you are happy and every man will appreciate some charming appearance. Socialize with the people around, but it doesn’t mean that you should act being talkative. You have to be wise enough to know where to draw the line.
Tip #7: Some “him time”.
Spend some time with him and this doesn’t mean taking him out for getting some clothes for yourself or torturing him with your frustrations in your work place. But rather just be with him, maybe look into his eyes and try to understand him. Maybe that was all that he required even in the beginning too.
Tip #8: Loyalty.
Don’t talk behind his back. You need not enlighten other people with the flashbacks and recent updates of your relationship. This can actually tarnish a possible “good bond”. Stop listening to your friends and avoid comparing him to their boyfriends. Your guy is definitely different from your bestie’s boyfriend and that’s why you fell for him and not the latter.
Tip #9: Sacrifices.
Give respect to his views by giving heed to his choices too. Try to be more understanding. Instead of complaining that he is not seeing what you are undergoing, try to put yourself in his shoes. Love always develops when you put your partner first than your actual self and thereby being selfless.
There are ups and downs in every relationship. As Noah says in Notebook, “So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.” Try keeping this as a moto to your relationship and you will serve the test. And remember, don’t try to wear a mask just because to get him back because it is your life you are playing with. Personally speaking, I don’t believe in opening old wounds and making it worse, but instead, try kissing them and let them get healed.